tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7662209762016573627.post2435901677891872182..comments2023-06-01T08:15:30.899-05:00Comments on And Sam Makes Seven.: I hope I didn't just do something stupidUnknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger14125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7662209762016573627.post-2488648154828318302009-04-13T15:25:00.000-05:002009-04-13T15:25:00.000-05:00Congratulations on your referral!! I think your gi...Congratulations on your referral!! I think your gift is amazing and wish I would of found the engraved picture locket when I was looking. I gave both my babies birth mothers silver lockets with actual pictures in them. This was actually one of the things suggested by my agency. I understand exactly what you are saying and there is no way we could possibly convey all the feelings and emotions thatHeatherhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00833581852821763533noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7662209762016573627.post-82852255044661930362009-04-05T11:09:00.000-05:002009-04-05T11:09:00.000-05:00Congratulations on the referral - can't wait to be...Congratulations on the referral - can't wait to be able to see pictures! Very glad you finally have made this progress, and wow on how fast the rest will go! I very much understand your feelings about the necklace - I've grappled with much of the same any time I sent an update to my baby's Birthmother and picking out a Christmas gift was agonizing. I think Kate's suggestion is absolutely Stacyhttp://thedelightfuldelaney.wordpress.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7662209762016573627.post-39536795163650888142009-04-04T07:56:00.000-05:002009-04-04T07:56:00.000-05:00THANK YOU, Kate! I think that is a wonderful idea...THANK YOU, Kate! I think that is a wonderful idea!M.https://www.blogger.com/profile/13035530836201765683noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7662209762016573627.post-56313954322631189372009-04-04T07:24:00.000-05:002009-04-04T07:24:00.000-05:00Hi Michelle - Take the necklace along. But also b...Hi Michelle - <BR/><BR/>Take the necklace along. But also buy a smaller general gift to have along as well, to give her early on. Then, once you spend time together take your cues from her to see if you feel she's comfortable with a personal gift like that. I would bet by that time she would be. For the other gift you shouldn't spend much - anything is more than they currently have. <BR/><BR/>Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7662209762016573627.post-91236802519059798302009-04-03T19:47:00.000-05:002009-04-03T19:47:00.000-05:00that post is from me not Charlie, Chelle, I forgot...that post is from me not Charlie, Chelle, I forgot I was on his puter!! Lanie~Plow Boyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13625073915631495638noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7662209762016573627.post-52647383708062662132009-04-03T19:46:00.000-05:002009-04-03T19:46:00.000-05:00chelle you are totally over analyzing this thing! ...chelle you are totally over analyzing this thing! go with your initial gut feeling and trust that God is directing your words and your steps. He is the one who knows the heart of Sams mom and what it is that is going to make this transition for her bearable.Plow Boyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13625073915631495638noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7662209762016573627.post-18878446912256040492009-04-03T17:33:00.000-05:002009-04-03T17:33:00.000-05:00Being so close to my girls birth family I found ou...Being so close to my girls birth family I found out that they hung on every little word I said. I wish that I knew back then how much they looked forward to hearing from us. I think that I would have tried to tell them more. <BR/><BR/> I know that she will love the heart. She may not be able to express it right away but she will love it just the same!Rebeccahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11351461468842523407noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7662209762016573627.post-86697014293046989742009-04-03T15:38:00.000-05:002009-04-03T15:38:00.000-05:00I think it's great that you're thinking of her. I ...I think it's great that you're thinking of her. I always assumed there were "rules" about giving gifts to birthmoms. I certainly never got one. But the best gift you can give her is to love her/your child and give him the best life possible--and to raise him respecting her as much as you can.Heidihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14852928197032856063noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7662209762016573627.post-30189118474567846772009-04-03T14:15:00.000-05:002009-04-03T14:15:00.000-05:00Not to burst your bubble or anything, but I did so...Not to burst your bubble or anything, but I did something similar for our birthmom and later learned she just passed off the gift I agonized over for weeks to someone else. Hurt my feelings a bit until I realized materialistic things have no real meaning. It's the intent behind the gift that will mean the most to her.Island mamahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01333138760585095685noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7662209762016573627.post-26618421402892525022009-04-03T12:35:00.000-05:002009-04-03T12:35:00.000-05:00I think it's lovely and I think your road ahead of...I think it's lovely and I think your road ahead of questioning the best way to handle these types of situations is only just beginning! LOL I have to say I really wish I had an opportunity to be confused and not know the right thing to do! The very fact that you care enough to feel these things is a gift to your baby, for sure.Nickihttp://www.steppingonlegos.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7662209762016573627.post-44540904346542734352009-04-03T09:04:00.000-05:002009-04-03T09:04:00.000-05:00I think it's a very thoughtful gift. I would sinc...I think it's a very thoughtful gift. I would since I got something very similar for Zeeb's foster mom - only no writing on the back. I think she will appreciate that you cared enough and acknowledged that she is making a very big sacrifice. And if she would prefer not to think about him all the time (or to let the world see him) she can keep it in a special place and pull it out when she wantsAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7662209762016573627.post-59165387256020151352009-04-03T08:35:00.000-05:002009-04-03T08:35:00.000-05:00I think it's all about the motivation behind the g...I think it's all about the motivation behind the gift. Obviously, your heart is in the right place, and I think that will be conveyed to her. Though I don't know if it's a necklace she would actually wear around all the time, I think it's soemthing she could pull out of her jewelry box and think about Sam whenever she wanted.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7662209762016573627.post-17509745221755050602009-04-03T06:52:00.000-05:002009-04-03T06:52:00.000-05:00I don't think there is a clear right or wrong in t...I don't think there is a clear right or wrong in this situation, because every person is different, and it is impossible to know how the birth mother will feel. While I understand your concern over the word gratitude, I also would *think* it would be comforting to a birth mother to know that the people who will be parenting her child are grateful for the opportunity to do so. I think it is a Elainehttp://lookingforgeorge.wordpress.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7662209762016573627.post-82189484723220463752009-04-03T00:27:00.000-05:002009-04-03T00:27:00.000-05:00Wow. I'm sorry but I have no idea what the "right"...Wow. I'm sorry but I have no idea what the "right" or appropriate thing to do here is. I think I would be as confused as you as to what the best thing to do is. While the necklace does of course feel like a tiny thing compared to what she is giving you, I "think" maybe it's good that it's a personal gift and not something generic. It shows you care about her.Chandrahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03961887368473742849noreply@blogger.com